Say Nothing – A Power Skill

Say Nothing – A Power Skill

SAYING NOTHING – A POWER SKILL

By Dr. Denny Coates

Both my sons are in their 50s, still pursuing highly successful careers in information technology. I check in with them often, and when I do, I make an effort to communicate effectively. I try to be aware of moments when a particular skill will work best for me—as I do with friends, other family members, and business associates. During a recent conversation, I was reminded of something important. Often, the best response is to not respond—saying nothing. There were moments when I felt the urge to give advice, to debate, or to give feedback. But instead, I just let him do the talking.

 

“In the heat of the moment, choose your battles. Sometimes saying nothing is the smartest thing you can do.”

It worked like a charm; it was the most effective thing I could have done. No argument. No implication of criticism. Nothing to push us apart. Just a nonverbal signal that I was thinking about what my son had said.

Saying nothing is a powerful, underappreciated skill.

Instead of reacting, just listen, and let them know nonverbally that you’re hearing and considering what they have to say.

And if you feel you really must say something, ask an open-ended question. Instead of saying, “That doesn’t sound like a good idea,” say “What do you think will happen if you do that?” And then follow up with listening to understand, or a follow-up question, such as “If that happens, how would you feel about that?” But let saying nothing be your lead.

Learn more about listening and asking open-ended questions in Chapters 4 and 5 of Connect with Your Team.

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Connect with Your Team

Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D.,
and Meredith M. Bell

332: Flexible Leadership: Navigate Uncertainty and Lead with Confidence

332: Flexible Leadership: Navigate Uncertainty and Lead with Confidence

332: Flexible Leadership: Navigate Uncertainty and Lead with Confidence

Are your leadership habits helping you adapt…or holding you back? Kevin Eikenberry shares highlights from his new book, Flexible Leadership, and explores what it truly means to lead with confidence in uncertain times.

Using the powerful image of a tree, deeply rooted yet able to bend, Kevin offers a fresh take on how leaders can stay grounded in their values while adapting their approach. The discussion covers the essential elements of mindset, skillset, and habitset, and how each one shapes a leader’s ability to navigate complexity with clarity and purpose.

This conversation brings practical wisdom and real-life application to the forefront. The concept of the “confidence-competence loop” offers a hopeful reminder that growth builds momentum. Whether you’re leading a team, managing change, or working on personal development, you’ll find actionable insights for growing stronger through flexibility.

Kevin is the Chief Potential Officer of The Kevin Eikenberry Group, a leadership and learning company based in Indianapolis, Indiana, with a team across the United States. He has spent over 30 years helping organizations and leaders from at least 53 countries become more effective.

You’ll discover:

  • How to stay grounded in your values while adapting your approach
  • The power of “it depends” in shifting perspective
  • What the confidence-competence loop means for leaders
  • Why resistance isn’t a problem—it’s an invitation
  • How to use questions to unlock better decisions

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331: How Self-Leadership Shapes Your Personal Brand

331: How Self-Leadership Shapes Your Personal Brand

331: How Self-Leadership Shapes Your Personal Brand

What if the only thing standing between you and stronger leadership is the way you see and lead yourself? In this conversation, Ben Albert shares how losing his job during the pandemic became the catalyst for his growth as an entrepreneur and podcaster.

We explore why self-leadership matters, especially when no one else is steering the ship, and how habits, relationships, and honest feedback can help you grow. Ben also explains how self-care, personal branding, and seeking out mentors can transform your impact on others and yourself.

We also discuss overcoming fears, turning weaknesses into strengths, and the power of empathy and curiosity in personal development. Ben describes building a supportive community of growth-minded leaders and why genuine connections are the foundation of lasting success. Whether you’re looking to lead more effectively or become a better version of yourself, you’ll find practical ideas and inspiration in this episode.

Ben hosts a network of 5 podcasts called “Real Business Connections,” ranked in the top 1% globally. He also runs a massively successful marketing firm, Balbert Marketing. Ben is on a mission to move the needle on one million lives, one conversation at a time.

You’ll discover:

  • How self-leadership can empower you during times of uncertainty and change.
  • The role of self-care in supporting both personal growth and your ability to lead others.
  • Why personal branding matters and how to shape the way others perceive you.
  • Practical ideas for overcoming fears and turning past weaknesses into strengths.
  • The benefits of joining a growth-minded community for networking and ongoing development.

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330: Coaching Character as the Foundation of Leadership

330: Coaching Character as the Foundation of Leadership

330: Coaching Character as the Foundation of Leadership

What if the real secret to great leadership isn’t found in strategy or skill, but in the strength of your character? This conversation with Dane Deutsch explores how character forms the true foundation of leadership, shaped by his own family values, military service, and years of leading diverse teams.

Through stories from the Air Force and his own experience as a CEO, Dane reveals why caring for people and building trust matter more than any title or technique. His insights show that whether you’re coaching athletes, running a business, or guiding a community, authentic leadership always begins with character.

Dane also introduces the “tricycle effect,” illustrating how qualities like trustworthiness, respect, and responsibility steer both personal and professional growth. From practical tools for self-coaching to the power of empathy and humility, you’ll come away inspired to strengthen your own character skills, build genuine connections, and lead with heart in every area of life.

Dane was a Commander in the US Air Force and first applied character skills in the military. He’s the CEO of LMDC Academy, which stands for Leadership Management and Development in Character. Over the past 40 years, he’s coached and trained athletes, businesses, and teams. Dane owned a cybersecurity company and sold it in 2020. He’s also taught classes on cybersecurity at the university level. He and his wife own a gymnastics training center for pre-k to high school students, and character is the #1 skill they teach, followed by leadership, and then technical skills. Dane’s most recent book is titled Coach-Ability and The Tricycle Effect: Coaching Character as the Foundation of Leadership.

You’ll discover:

  • Why character skills are the true foundation of great leadership
  • How self-talk and body posture can help you manage anxiety and boost confidence
  • The “tricycle effect” and how it can guide your personal and professional growth
  • Real stories about empathy, humility, and the power of being coachable
  • Practical ways to develop trust, respect, and authentic connections in any area of your life

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329: Being a Force for Good in the World

329: Being a Force for Good in the World

329: Being a Force for Good in the World

What if the real key to powerful leadership is tuning in to your inner wisdom? Coco Sellman brings this idea to life by sharing how listening to that quiet inner voice and acting with integrity can transform not just your own journey, but also the lives of those you lead. Through stories of founding multiple companies and guiding teams through challenges like the pandemic, Coco highlights how self-leadership, reinvention, and daily rituals help unlock personal and professional growth.

You’ll learn how transformational leadership goes beyond innovation, creating environments where people are genuinely empowered to grow and contribute their unique strengths. Coco’s insights into finding one’s “highest and best use” offer a fresh perspective on aligning daily actions with greater purpose. From nurturing nurses to redefining high-performance cultures, this episode is packed with wisdom for anyone seeking to lead with heart, clarity, and impact.

Coco is such a big believer in the idea that business is a force for good that she founded and is the CEO of a company called A Force for Good. Her focus is to support purpose-driven women founders in unlocking exponential growth and prosperity. Coco is well qualified for this role. She has more than 25 years of entrepreneurial experience, has launched five companies, and guided over 500 startups.

Her recent venture, Allumé Home Care, reached eight-figure revenues and seven-figure profits in just four years before a successful exit in 2024. Coco’s book, A Force for Good, offers a detailed roadmap that inspires societal change through women-led enterprises.

You’ll discover:

  • How to tap into and trust your inner wisdom
  • The difference between simple change, innovation, and true transformation
  • Practical ways to identify your “highest and best use”
  • Why nurturing and valuing team members fuels growth
  • Strategies for building collaborative, high-purpose organizations

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Curious how LinkedIn can actually help you build real business relationships—not just rack up connections? In this episode, LinkedIn expert Bill McCormick shares his journey from traditional sales to becoming a trusted advisor on the platform. Bill reveals why authenticity, curiosity, and genuine engagement are the keys to standing out and building trust, whether you’re networking, recruiting, or growing your business.

We dive into practical tips for optimizing your profile, engaging with others in a meaningful way, and using LinkedIn’s premium features (like Sales Navigator) to your advantage. Bill also shares his thoughts on AI and automation, and why the human touch still matters most. If you want to make LinkedIn work for you—without feeling salesy or inauthentic—this episode is packed with actionable advice you can use right away.

Bill is the Founder of Digi-Sales, a Digital Selling training company, and Digi-Sales Academy, an online video training platform where he shares his passion for helping professionals leverage the power of LinkedIn. Bill first started using digital sales techniques after he and his wife, Sue, started their own promotional product business.
By using social platforms, especially LinkedIn, they were able to build a very successful business. Bill then began to help other business owners, entrepreneurs and sales professionals learn how to use LinkedIn to increase sales.

Bill has conducted training for companies worldwide and specializes in helping to ‘make LinkedIn Human’ – explaining the platform in easy-to-understand ways, and recently launched the All Selling Is Social Podcast.

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