Conflict Resolution | Grow Strong Leaders

121: Replace Drama with Compassionate Accountability

Want to reduce the amount of drama and conflict in your life? My guest Nate Regier explains the drama triangle and the real causes of conflict…and why compassionate accountability is the solution to both. Nate’s unique perspective about conflict can help you approach differences with another person in a new, better way. He’s brilliant in creating models that foster positive relationships and workplaces…and then teaching clients how to use them to transform their organizations. You’ll find that his model for compassionate accountability has immediate application in your life.

Nate is the CEO and founding owner of Next Element Consulting, a global leadership firm dedicated to bringing compassion into the workplace. He’s the author of three books, and this interview focused on his second book: Conflict without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading with Compassionate Accountability. Nate hosts an excellent podcast called “On Compassion with Dr. Nate,” where he spotlights leaders committed to building positive cultures.

You’ll discover:

The dynamics between the 3 roles of Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor
Why Nate describes Rescuers as “non-consensual helpers”
What Nate means when he says, “Compassion is not for the faint of heart”
The 3 elements of the model (Open-Resourceful-Persistent-Order) and why the sequence is so important
The distinction between boundaries, ultimatums and consequences

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040: Bring a Fresh Perspective to Relationships You Already Have

by Katie Bishop

Have you ever started working on a project with someone you have a history with…and allowed your previous interactions with the person to influence the attitude you bring to the current situation? My guest Katie Bishop has. She recently co-authored a book, The Best Seller, with her father. In this interview we explore why this project took five years and how her view of her dad changed as they interacted and as she interviewed people he had mentored. The lessons she shares can be applied to any relationships, at home or at work. You’ll love hearing the new appreciation Katie developed for her father during this work, and you’ll likely re-think the way you view some of the people in your life.

You’ll discover:

An approach for defining roles when you’re embarking on a new project with someone
How to resolve differences and get into a successful rhythm when working with others
Ways to communicate when two people disagree in order to honor both parties’ opinions
How to create realistic dialogues when writing articles or books that involve people having a conversation
Why “going slow” at first can help you “go fast” later