339: Transforming Your Stress into a Strength

339: Transforming Your Stress into a Strength

339: Transforming Your Stress into a Strength

How can you effectively manage stress and stay composed in high-pressure situations? In this episode, Dr. Susan Bernstein dives into the power of somatic leadership, offering insights on how you can use body signals to transform your responses to time pressures and unexpected changes. Drawing from her extensive experience working with top companies like Cisco and Google, Susan shares practical techniques that foster self-awareness, reduce stress, and enable you to create a sense of calm in chaotic environments.

By learning to tune into your body’s signals, you can improve decision-making and enhance team dynamics. Susan discusses six common nervous system response patterns—fight, flight, freeze, fawn, fade, and fix—and shows how leaders can shift from a reactive, “fight” mode into a more grounded, mindful approach. This shift not only alleviates stress but also boosts resilience and fosters a healthier workplace culture.

Susan is the CEO of a boutique consulting firm called Powerful Under Pressure. As the name implies, she helps leaders and teams at companies like Cisco, Google, and Uber excel under the most demanding conditions.

Susan combines her past experiences in leadership roles at Intel and Accenture with an MBA from UC Berkeley and a PhD in Somatic Psychology in her work with clients. Susan developed the Powerful Under Pressure framework to help organizations strengthen operational capacity by increasing the resilience and clarity of the people leading them. This emphasis equips teams to navigate complexity with sound judgment and sustained performance.

You’ll discover:

  • The concept of “somatic smarts” and how small shifts in body awareness can lead to greater leadership effectiveness
  • The six nervous system response patterns and how they impact your decisions
  • Simple somatic techniques you can use to enhance self-awareness and relaxation
  • How self-awareness can help you navigate high-pressure situations with calmness and clarity
  • Strategies for supporting your team in managing stress and building resilience

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Connect with Dr. Susan Bernstein

Dr. Susan Bernstein’s Website

Powerful Under Pressure

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337: Never Delegate Again—Unless You’re Doing It Like This

337: Never Delegate Again—Unless You’re Doing It Like This

337: Never Delegate Again—Unless You’re Doing It Like This

What if delegation wasn’t about getting tasks off your plate, but about helping your people grow? This episode explores a powerful reframe of delegation as a leadership tool for development. Brad Federman shares insights from his book Never Delegate Again, challenging outdated models like the Eisenhower Matrix and offering a modern, growth-oriented approach that builds both people and performance. He introduces the Growth Matrix, a practical framework for assigning tasks in ways that stretch capabilities while avoiding overload or misalignment.

You’ll hear real-life stories that bring Brad’s strategies to life, including how he helped a burned-out employee reclaim her career path and why feedback needs to be treated like a long-term investment.

We discuss the mindset shifts required for effective leadership today, such as prioritizing coaching over control and seeing possibility in others. This conversation is a must-listen for leaders who want to empower their teams, build emotional intelligence, and lead with purpose in a fast-changing world.

Brad is the founder of PerformancePoint, a firm dedicated to helping organizations engage employees, strengthen customer relationships, and cultivate resilient, collaborative cultures through effective leadership.

You’ll discover:

  • Why traditional delegation models are no longer effective
  • The critical role of mindset in leadership success
  • How to use the Growth Matrix to assign tasks for development
  • How to coach your team for confidence, not just compliance
  • What “investment feedback” looks like in practice

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Connect with Brad

Brad’s Resources

Websites

PerformancePoint

Brad Federman

Books

Never Delegate Again: Uncover the Secret to Growing Your Company, Your People, and Yourself  – Coming soon!

Cultivating Culture: 101 Ways to Foster Engagement in 15 Minutes or Less

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319: Cultivating a Culture That Lasts

 

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How to Learn from Experience

How to Learn from Experience

How to Learn from Experience

By Dr. Denny Coates

People who eventually become managers typically don’t come to the workplace with leadership skills such as effective communication and character strength. They have to learn from experience. Their challenge is to replace old habits with more effective ones. Books like Connect with Your Team describe how to perform these skills, but acquiring them takes lots of on-the-job practice. As coaches always say, “You gotta get your reps.”

So, work itself can be a time of growth, a time for learning. It is said that experience is a great teacher. But learning doesn’t automatically follow experience. You can have a significant event—whether positive or negative—and move on to the next challenge without learning a thing.

 

How to Guarantee Learning from Experience

The key is to think about what happened—to analyze the experience.

When you get the feeling, “Well, that didn’t go well,” give yourself a time-out break and ask yourself these questions, in roughly this order:

  1. What happened? Who did what? What was the sequence of events?
  2. Why did it happen this way? Why did it happen? What caused the result? What went wrong—or right?
  3. What were the consequences? What was the impact? How did you feel about the outcome? Benefits? Costs?
  4.  What could you do differently in the future? What lessons did you learn?

Learn from Both Successes and Failures

Life is an amazing succession of experiences. You can learn from all of them. These four questions will help you transform a poorly handled situation into a plan that will enable your success going forward. I recommend that you make a habit of analyzing whatever happened, whether it was a success or a failure. To make the lessons stick, I suggest recording your thoughts.

Learn from Experience

When coaching others, you can encourage them to learn from their experiences by asking them the above questions.

Learning doesn’t automatically follow experience.
It’s possible to move from one event to the next without learning a thing.”

Good things happen, and you can build on your success. Things can go wrong, too, and you can try something different next time. But you won’t learn the lesson if you don’t think about what happened.

Connect with Your Team is your how-to guide for working on leader-team communication skills and is a key resource in the leader development system, Grow Strong Leaders.

Connect with Your Team

Mastering the Top 10 Communication Skills

Dennis E. Coates, Ph.D.,  and Meredith M. Bell

335: How a Shared Family Legacy Shaped a Purpose-Driven Business

335: How a Shared Family Legacy Shaped a Purpose-Driven Business

335: How a Shared Family Legacy Shaped a Purpose-Driven Business

What happens when a mother and daughter build a business grounded in legacy, love, and leadership? June Perry-Stevens and Krystle Rogers share the powerful story of their mother-daughter business partnership, rooted in a family lineage that dates back to ancestors who were enslaved.

Their bond is built on mutual respect, deep trust, and a shared commitment to community, excellence, and generational leadership. Their company, Best Ed Business, has evolved through intentional partnerships and a clear focus on delivering exceptional service, all while staying grounded in values passed down through generations.

Together, June and Krystle model what it means to lead with integrity and love. Their conversation touches on honoring the past while building for the future, the importance of empowering women, and the role of relationship-building in business success. With a lineage of strength behind them and a heart for service, they demonstrate how legacy can be both a source of pride and a call to purpose.

You’ll discover:

  • The power of intergenerational leadership built on respect and trust
  • Why leading with love and service creates lasting customer relationships
  • The importance of appreciating differences and individual strengths
  • How one family lives into a history of resilience and excellence
  • Practical ways to empower women and uplift communities through business

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Connect with June and Krystle

      

Resources

Website

Best Ed Business

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333: The Go-Giver Approach to Leadership

333: The Go-Giver Approach to Leadership

333: The Go-Giver Approach to Leadership

What if the secret to success is giving more? In this episode, Meredith Bell speaks with Bob Burg, co-author of The Go-Giver, about why shifting your focus to consistently providing value leads to greater fulfillment and profitability. Bob explains the Five Laws of Stratospheric Success and how they apply to entrepreneurs, leaders, and teams.

You’ll come away inspired by Bob’s deep insights on value-based leadership, the true meaning of influence, and why receptivity is just as important as giving. Whether you’re growing a business or leading a team, this conversation will challenge your assumptions and equip you with timeless, practical wisdom.

The Go-Giver has sold well over a million copies and has been translated into 30 languages. Bob has created The Go-Giver Academy online learning portal featuring The Go-Giver® Success Vault, which includes all of his online courses and other business-building resources.

Bob is an advocate, supporter, and defender of the Free Enterprise system, believing that the amount of money one makes is directly proportional to how many people they serve.

You’ll discover:

  • The meaning of a “go-giver”
  • Why giving value is more profitable than chasing money
  • How to lead with authenticity without using it as a crutch
  • The difference between genuine influence and manipulation
  • How being open to receiving fuels your ability to give more

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Connect with Bob

        

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332: Flexible Leadership: Navigate Uncertainty and Lead with Confidence

332: Flexible Leadership: Navigate Uncertainty and Lead with Confidence

332: Flexible Leadership: Navigate Uncertainty and Lead with Confidence

Are your leadership habits helping you adapt…or holding you back? Kevin Eikenberry shares highlights from his new book, Flexible Leadership, and explores what it truly means to lead with confidence in uncertain times.

Using the powerful image of a tree, deeply rooted yet able to bend, Kevin offers a fresh take on how leaders can stay grounded in their values while adapting their approach. The discussion covers the essential elements of mindset, skillset, and habitset, and how each one shapes a leader’s ability to navigate complexity with clarity and purpose.

This conversation brings practical wisdom and real-life application to the forefront. The concept of the “confidence-competence loop” offers a hopeful reminder that growth builds momentum. Whether you’re leading a team, managing change, or working on personal development, you’ll find actionable insights for growing stronger through flexibility.

Kevin is the Chief Potential Officer of The Kevin Eikenberry Group, a leadership and learning company based in Indianapolis, Indiana, with a team across the United States. He has spent over 30 years helping organizations and leaders from at least 53 countries become more effective.

You’ll discover:

  • How to stay grounded in your values while adapting your approach
  • The power of “it depends” in shifting perspective
  • What the confidence-competence loop means for leaders
  • Why resistance isn’t a problem—it’s an invitation
  • How to use questions to unlock better decisions

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