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147: How to Transform Conflict into Connection

What if you could welcome conflicts instead of avoiding or dreading them? My guest Jason Digges describes how it’s possible to do just that by using Authentic Relating. We talk about that topic and many other ideas from his excellent book, Conflict = Energy, The Transformative Practice of Authentic Relating. You will want to take notes because Jason shares a wealth of practical ideas you can apply at work and at home.

Jason is a modern renaissance man. He’s equal parts artist, philosopher, teacher, and media producer. From 2003-2012 he worked for Integral Institute to create thousands of hours of educational media on the topics of transpersonal psychology, spirituality, productivity, and personal growth. Jason is obsessed with how humans can live and relate optimally. Since 2012, he’s facilitated groups and taught authentic relating and circling courses in over 20 cities around the world.

You’ll discover:

The 5 practices involved in Authentic Relating (AR)
Why Appreciation is a key element in building trust and strong relationships
The roles of Noticing, Appreciating, and Curiosity in AR
Why Dignity + Humility = Transformation and how the shadow side of each can get in the way of connecting with others
How leaders can create psychological safety so people feel free to speak up and share their thoughts and feelings

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121: Replace Drama with Compassionate Accountability

Want to reduce the amount of drama and conflict in your life? My guest Nate Regier explains the drama triangle and the real causes of conflict…and why compassionate accountability is the solution to both. Nate’s unique perspective about conflict can help you approach differences with another person in a new, better way. He’s brilliant in creating models that foster positive relationships and workplaces…and then teaching clients how to use them to transform their organizations. You’ll find that his model for compassionate accountability has immediate application in your life.

Nate is the CEO and founding owner of Next Element Consulting, a global leadership firm dedicated to bringing compassion into the workplace. He’s the author of three books, and this interview focused on his second book: Conflict without Casualties: A Field Guide for Leading with Compassionate Accountability. Nate hosts an excellent podcast called “On Compassion with Dr. Nate,” where he spotlights leaders committed to building positive cultures.

You’ll discover:

The dynamics between the 3 roles of Victim, Rescuer and Persecutor
Why Nate describes Rescuers as “non-consensual helpers”
What Nate means when he says, “Compassion is not for the faint of heart”
The 3 elements of the model (Open-Resourceful-Persistent-Order) and why the sequence is so important
The distinction between boundaries, ultimatums and consequences